We’d all love to find answers.
But then, most of the time, we find answers that don’t work for us.
“It said to meditate every day but it just doesn’t work with my five kids and two dogs!”
“I read that if I ate six small meals a day, I’d lose weight, but I didn’t!”
“I was told that budgeting was the way to success but I’m still broke!”
Looking for answers and calling it ‘self-help’ doesn’t make any sense.
You’re not helping yourself if someone’s telling you what to do. You’re just being told what to do, and hoping it’ll work. And just because the answers worked for someone, doesn’t mean they’ll work for you.
Self-help is putting the work in yourself.
So why not look for questions instead?
Let’s figure shit out together. Because I don’t have any answers anyway.
When I’ve learnt something, really learnt something, it’s generally because I’ve been asked a really good question and been able to draw my own conclusions.
That’s why I think properly reflecting on good questions is so much more useful than answers.
But because I’m writing Exploring Enough for myself, I’m trying to ask questions to myself.
I’m calling them ‘Enough Questions’.
Instead of looking for answers, I’m keeping my eyes and ears open for good questions to ask myself.
Questions that make think about what Enough looks like to me. Because, like life, what’s Enough for you isn’t fixed, it changes over time. And it’s not universal to everyone, it’s personal.
There are so many questions we can be asking ourselves, and they aren’t rocket science. But in our busy lives, it’s rare that we stop to ask them.
So I’ll be sharing ‘Enough Questions’ on my Facebook page and inviting others to share theirs, too.
Here are some that are on my mind, just for starters:
- Why am I doing what I’m doing?
- Is that a good enough reason?
- When was the last time I sat back and thought about my goals?
- What really matters to me?
Do you have any ‘Enough Questions’ that help you reflect on what’s important?
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